Looking for wholeness presupposes the present lack of wholeness. It presupposes the concept of separation, and from there the search for wholeness or oneness goes on.
How can the next thought of a special spiritual state, some blissful state, whatever that concept of enlightenment is - how can that even arise as a future state when it's read over and over that what you are seeking, you already are?
Instead of seeking some future state, something different than THIS, right here and now, take a close look at now, at this, right here. If you are already that, if this is all there is, then something about this moment MUST be it. It must have to do with this moment and not some future moment. It must be something about this present state and not some future state.
The instant a thought comes about BECOMING something, it should be obvious that the search has gone off the rails - seeking something better, something new, and overlooking the very point of the search.
When this happens, return again and again to this very moment. What IS, right now? Remain in that as often as possible. And this moment is divided by concepts. The idea of "ME-SEEING" is a conceptual division.
How do you know yourself, right here and now? You point out the body and thoughts. You point out experiences. You point out feelings. You point out more concepts. But how do you know yourself?
You already intimately know yourself. You are always here, always the presence which is the basis for this moment. You are always the capacity for all experience. You are always the knowing in which the knower and the known arise.
Except you call yourself body. You call yourself mind or thoughts or intellect. You apply an objective experience to yourself, when all the while you are the subjective capacity for ALL experience. That is actually quite obvious and not in need of a search, except for all the concepts chased after.
This pure "I" is actually the knowing itself, the "awareness" or subjectivity or openness or wakefulness. But that is translated by the mind as "I AM". So you KNOW that you ARE - you know "I AM". That translation by the mind is an attempt to place "thingness" upon that presence of knowing. And the only "thing" which is convenient is the body, the chattering thoughts, the intellect.
Stay with the pure and absolute certainty of existence - "I AM". Watch as the mind mixes this up with the objective content - body-mind.
In reality every single thing known is arising IN the openness of "I AM". And the body is an object of knowledge. Thoughts are objects of knowledge. Each of these changes, comes and goes, is subject to the polarity of opposites. The pure "I" or "I AM-ness" is the background of knowing, ever-present and never changing, watching even Consciousness come with it's play of life and death, and fade into the darkness, stillness and natural "state" we call deep sleep.