What is Joy? Do you recall a moment of Joy? What were the characteristics of that moment? Everything just seemed ok - everything was good - at that moment all previous problems were gone. All possible future problems aren't there. There is just what IS. And that "what IS" is a fullness, a wholeness, a completeness.
How did you get that Joy? Did you go to the market and buy some Joy? Give me one pound of Joy please... did you take it home, slice it up into little bits, putting each one in it's own ziplock bag? Put one in your pocket and take out each time you need some Joy? Open the bag, take a whiff - mmmmm Joy...
Did that Joy come from some accomplishment? This is where it gets tricky. Because the fulfillment of a desire is often accompanied with Joy, yes? So we attribute the attainment of desire with Joy or happiness. But is it true?
That attainment or acquisition - if it brought Joy - why does it not continue to do so? You may still have the object or position or title or relationship. But that Joy is short-lived. Why?
Maybe it is because the Joy doesn't come from the accomplishment or the acquisition. The goal or the object isn't the reason for that Joy. It is the very fulfillment of the desire itself which brought Joy - in other words, the ending of desire. The ending of WANTING. It is WANTING which obscures Joy, is it not?
So without wanting, we would have Joy. But wanting Joy is just more WANT. Trying to get rid of WANTS is more WANTS. This is called bondage.
What is the way out? How to find Joy without wanting it? We can continue to pursue objective goals, experiences, acquisitions to reach this Joy - or we can realize that we don't need to FIND Joy.
If the ending of wanting results in Joy, then Joy must be innate. Joy must already be there. Joy must be ready to spring forth, once the wanting is gone. Joy must be like the sun behind the clouds - once they part the bright rays of Joy come shining through.
So there is no need to find Joy, to reach Joy, to get Joy. There is nothing that is needed - nothing objective can ultimately bring a permanent Joy because we're always wanting something else. This moment is never really good enough. There is always something more we want.
So recognize that Joy is not found but revealed in the absence of wanting, in the absence of conditions. Joy is your natural state, shining forth in the absence of wanting. The only way to find it is not to look for it, not to seek it, not to need it, not to WANT it.
In Vedanta, another word for Joy is Ananda. Ananda is what you are. You don't have to WANT it. You ARE it. We find the root WANT isn't the object, the accomplishment, the acquisition. The root WANT is Joy or Happiness or Peace or Love.
Therefore all wants stem from this primary want - the want of your Self. It isn't in need of finding. It is ever-present. Joy is always your own Self.