We believe we are in control, that we have some substance and existence as a separate life or driving force - we believe we know what the future holds, that we can guide it to our liking and avoid that which we don't.
This is all due to inattention and suppression of Reality.
Reality isn't difficult - it's obvious. It's not rocket science or some doctorate-level spirituality or mysticism - none of this is required to know Reality directly. Reality is simply ignored because, to the mind, it can be seen as too painful.
It's painful because we want to hold on to what we love and what we want. We want to hold on to our identity and our life, our story. We feel that, with this control we can make the right decisions and then everything will be ok (ok means to MY liking.)
Because we want these things, yet we are NEVER certain from one moment to the next what will happen, we build up this running story. We pass over Reality and live in a mental world which is nothing but illusion. We ignore the fact that there is absolutely nothing in our control - the little "ME" can't do anything about the constantly changing nature of Reality - we suppress (resist/deny) the fact that every single thing we love and want can be gone in a split second.
To accept this fact, this direct Reality, is to die. Acceptance of Reality or surrender to God is the same thing. There is a surrender of "my life" because it is obviously only a thought-created story. There is a surrender of "me as the doer", of "I am in control of my life". To accept that we are solidly stuck in this unchanging moment yet we can never say or control what the content will be, what will come, what will go... appearances are there and then they aren't - there is no certainty EVER that they will re-appear. Ever.
Yet as we notice the total flux, the total lack of absolute nature of the appearance, it may dawn that what we are is not subject to that flux. It may dawn that what we truly are has never changed, has never been subject to the coming and going of objects that arise. It may become blindingly obvious that every single changing thing, including the body, mind and world, can only be known against a changeless ground.
Whatever happens, happens perfectly, exactly as it should, even if that happening isn't to MY liking. To understand that this little ME-story never had any control to keep these appearances as we want, to keep these appearances re-appearing - and to understand that our true essence IS that intelligent hand of God - go hand in hand, so to speak.
In this understanding, the ignorant belief in control and separation falls away naturally - what IS, IS. What "may BE" is in the hands of God, that obvious Intelligence which is the essence of all that IS. As a separate person, we will always be fighting with this because we can't reconcile Reality. The individual who is separate from God can never truly accept God. It is only when true surrender happens that God becomes obvious. Yet that surrender can also only be in God's hands...
There is nothing YOU can do - seeking is another story of "what can I do" to find God. Seeking God firmly plants us in illusion - God doesn't need to seek Himself. Yet until the little ME is known to be only an story born of ignorance (ignoring) - that "individual" is a wall which seems to obscure God.
That wall is made of thought.
Like a brush with death, experiencing loses it's exclusive focus on the "story of ME" and is left in it's pure openness, unlimitedness, timelessness... pure causeless Joy, Reality shining through as SatChitAnanda - Being/Knowing/Bliss...
God cannot find Himself and he cannot LOSE Himself. Reality is God - the totality of appearances and the knowing of that totality - seemingly two yet totality includes the seen and the seer. Pure seeing.
To see "what's happening right here and now" is to look directly at God with His eyes.